Self Care: Stepping Back
Yesterday I went for a walk which is one of my favourite ways to clear my head, reassess things going on in my life and work out what I want to work on or change. I realised one thing I don’t do enough of is things I enjoy. I am someone who finds it hard to say no to people so I usually end up taking on more things or committing to more things than what I am actually able to manage or is good for me. So I am trying to learn to say no to things that I don’t want to do and stepping back from things that aren’t good for me.
At the beginning of last year I went through a period of a few months where I spent almost every other night out drinking. Now don’t get me wrong I enjoy going out but during this time I realised that this wasn’t good for me I wasn’t getting much sleep, I was working a lot of overtime, I wasn’t eating properly and on top of that I was drinking a hell of a lot. That combination wasn’t good for my body or my mental health so I started saying no to going out all the time, which firstly was great for my bank, but I started to find that I had a lot more energy and felt a lot better in myself.
In the last few months I have just generally stepped back from things that I don’t enjoy. I am also trying to spend less time aimlessly scrolling things like Facebook, Twitter etc because I think I spend far too much time looking at a screen these days and I used to spend a lot more time actually doing things. I have already deleted all of the games from my phone and I’m making lists of books (I mean physical books instead of ebooks) that I want to read, films I want to see, restaurants I want to go and eat at and planning places I want to go and rather than spending half of my life on social media.
Knowing the difference it has made on me stepping back from things that are negatively affecting me I am going to try and do more of it because it has definitely helped me.